Support

As part of our ongoing support toward improving mental health and well-being we have collated the core information on the below topics.

If you feel that you might need some additional support with any of these topics or the assistance of an alternative agency please see our signposting section.

Anger

If you are unsure why your child is feeling angry, try thinking of anger like an iceberg (see picture to right). Most of an iceberg is hidden below the surface of the water.
Similarly, when a person is feeling angry, there can be other emotions hidden beneath the surface, it is easy to see the anger but it can be difficult to see the underlying feelings the anger is protecting.

Learning to recognise anger as a basic and valid emotion that is a protector of raw feelings can be incredibly powerful.

In the Anger Iceberg picture (right) it shows other emotions and feels that may lurk below the surface, such as loneliness, depression or fear, or it can be a combination of feelings. Understanding this can lead to healing conversations that allow children and parents to understand each other better.

”Anxiety”

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Wellness Tools

The following may help to reduce symptoms, whilst waiting to be seen by your GP/Counsellor. Remember that something that may work for your friends may not work for you, so it is best to try a few until you find one that works.

Exercise – releases endorphins which are known as feel good hormones in your brain which can help regulate mood and relax the mind.

Healthy eating – Did you know that the food we eat may affect our mood? Junk food and refined sugars are low in nutritional value and can leave us feeling sluggish with no energy. A healthy diet can promote health and reduce Anxiety.

Sleep – a good night’s sleep can reduce Anxiety and help you to tackle the day ahead. Teenagers need between 8 – 10 hours a night. Switching off any technology such as phones and computers before bedtime may also help you to have a good night’s sleep.

Learn to breath – when Anxiety is high we may find that we take in more short, shallow breaths which can send signals to the brain that we are stressed and anxious. By taking longer breaths and strengthening the breath we can help send signals to our brain that we are okay. You will get the most benefit if you do this regularly, as part of your daily routine.

Bullying

Bullying is when someone hurts another person or a group of people on purpose. This is often repeated and can make people feel very unhappy.
There are different ways bullying can happen, it can be face to face, over the internet, social media or through phone calls and/or texts. These are the four main different types of bullying:

Verbal: Name calling, unkind words, threatening, mocking and teasing.
Physical: Hurting another person physically on purpose, this can include hitting, kicking, pinching or pushing. It can also include stealing of somebody’s personal items or being intimidating to another person.
Emotional: Humiliating, spreading rumours, making people feel unhappy or uncomfortable, excluding and tormenting.
Cyber: This is when people use computers, phones, tablets or any other way of digital technology to bully another person. This might include messages, videos, images and actions than are sent or used to make another person feel unhappy, anxious and/or threatened.

Who gets bullied?
Bullying can happen to anyone. People can be bullied for any reason. It is sometimes because of any difference whether real of made up by the bully such as the way someone looks, their hobbies, family or how they are around others as well as protected characteristics such as race, sexuality and disability.

Remember, bullying can happen to anyone. Many children, adults and even celebrities including Emma Watson, Robert Pattinson and Rihanna have experienced bullying. It is not acceptable and is something nobody should have to put up with. If this is happening to you, it is important to talk to somebody you can trust, like a relative, a teacher or a friend.

”Depression”

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If you feel this way or experience one or more of these symptoms, it doesn’t mean you are depressed. It’s important to talk to your doctor about this to see if it is depression and how they can help you to feel better.

Depression often happens with anxiety and is one of the most common reasons people need to talk to somebody in therapy or counselling. Johnny Depp, Lady Gaga, Demi Lovato and Eminem have all had and overcome depression. It doesn’t last forever and with the help of others it can go away.

Depression can affect anyone, no matter how good their life might seem. Talking to a doctor can be really helpful and someone you can trust like a relative, a teacher or a friend can be a positive first step to getting the help you deserve to help you feel better.

Loss or bereavement

Losing someone you know, a pet or someone you are close to can be one of the most difficult things to experience in life. When children and young people experience this, it can be even more difficult.

After experiencing a loss it is common to feel really sad and you may feel lots of emotions including:
• Sadness
• Shock
• Anger
• Guilt and regret
• Helplessness
• Lonely
• Depression
• Anxiety
• Relief, if the death was following an illness

These emotions can make up an experience of grief and everyone experiences this differently, for different amounts of time and with different feelings. These feelings may feel very intense, especially soon after the death. Time usually helps these emotions to not feel quite as difficult but this may take a while.

It is important to let yourself feel sad but also to try and still do some things you enjoy. Talking to people including family, friends or a counsellor and people you can trust can help you during this difficult time.

• Your doctor - especially if you're concerned you're not coping, might be depressed, have trouble eating or sleeping, are thinking about hurting yourself, or you're not starting to feel better after a few months: they may suggest you talk to someone like a counsellor

• A teacher or tutor – you may be distracted or find it hard to concentrate at school or college for a while, so talking to a teacher you feel comfortable with can help them understand what you're going through and take a bit of pressure off you; special circumstances, such as bereavement, can sometimes be taken into account if you're having trouble with coursework or exams

”Mindfulness”

”Mindfulness

The most common way to learn and practice mindfulness is through mindfulness meditation.

You can also practice mindfulness throughout your day, by using your senses; for example;

On waking take the time to become aware of your surroundings, what can you see, hear, touch or smell?

During the day if you notice you are becoming stressed or anxious you can practice mindfulness by acknowledging these feelings and taking deep breaths and relaxing your muscles as you do so.

OCD

Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) is an anxiety disorder. It can become very difficult for the person experiencing it and their families, however it is also very treatable. It can come in different types and can affect many people and in different ways. It can begin young, starting when a child is as young as seven. Up to half of adults say their symptoms begun when they were children.

The most common types of OCD are where people have repeated thoughts, feelings and images which can be really frightening. These worries may be around certain things such as dirt, germs, danger and worries about doing something they don’t mean to such as accidently harming another person or themselves.

When people have these thoughts, they may feel they need to do something to stop this happening, this is called a compulsion. Compulsions could include cleaning, checking, counting, arranging or other rituals. These compulsions might make a person feel better for a short amount of time.

What are the symptoms of OCD?

A person might feel many different things including:
• Anxiety, fear, disgust, upset, distress or guilt
• A need to ask for reassurance or asking other people to check things
• A short term relief after doing the ritual
• A powerful urge to do something to stop the feelings

What do I do?

Taking the first step is sometimes the most important and helpful. If you feel like the symptoms of OCD are something you are experiencing, it doesn’t mean you have OCD. It is important to talk to your doctor to find the right support for you. You could also talk to a teacher, a relative or a friend.
It is important to try and talk to someone and hopefully receive some support as OCD normally gets better after treatment. You may be offered a type of therapy called Cognitive Behavioural Therapy.